Learning to recognize positive influences is just like any other skill. It must be practiced through trial and error. Luckily, our minds tend to naturally gravitate to good and positivity. Which means your mind will sense when you come across someone you want to include as part of your positive network of people. You will also know because, well, they simply have a lot to offer to your growth. If they challenge you to think and act upon knowledge then it is worth making an effort to build a relationship with that person. As to where anywhere really.
Here are some places we recommend: conferences on a topic you are passionate about as this is the more natural way to align with your values and interest with others. It will inevitably bring you in proximity to like-minded people. There are also specific networking events that are regularly posted online and social apps like Meetup.
The more you expose yourself to networking events the more social capital you will have.
The Power of Networking
Do not preoccupy yourself with what was or what will be. The power of now and the choices you make now are what truly matter. Expose yourself to create a group to network with. Focus on the power of networking. Having social capital is like having currency, the more you have the more you can leverage your passions and interests. The confidence boost you get from going out of your way to meet and discuss with other like-minded people is powerful. And in return, this can accelerate your growth by learning from others and modeling success instead of trying to reinvent the wheel.
Here are some suggestions that might help you get out your shell if you find yourself in a networking event or social setting:
- Make it easy for people to approach you: Have a positive attitude and genuinely enjoy yourself. It will come across and people will want to approach you.
- Initiate the first step: People are social by nature but you’ll be surprised how many are shy and miss out on building connections because of this. Be brave and focus on the potential in front of you to learn something amazing and potentially creating a long last symbiotic relationship.
- Give to give not to get something in return: Be genuine in your intentions and believe in the importance of why you are there. You want to share your knowledge and ideas. This will open people up to share back their own knowledge and ideas.
- Don’t bring negativity into a conversation, focus on positive: Don’t initiate an interaction based on something negative like complaining or criticizing. This will set the mood for the interaction and you will only come across as a negative influence. Focus on something positive you came across and build on that.
- Keep conversations short and meaningful: People have busy lives. Respect other people time, as well as yours, and this will go along way in being more effective in the interaction and people being more receptive.